Yelling: Finding A Safe Place To Avoid Marriage Arguments

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I have a favorite spot to do almost anything. Eating: on my bed in front of the tv. Working: in my bathtub with my homemade laptop station. Listening to music: in my car. Getting yelled at by my wife: um, that’s a little trickier.

We lived in a townhome for 4 years and before that we lived in various apartments. We always had at least one neighbor adjacent to our place – sometimes as many as four neighbors adjacent to us. With neighbors this close, arguing becomes difficult, if you care about them hearing you. I don’t know if I have ever yelled at my wife (seriously), but my wife…well, let’s just say she has yelled at me a few times.

But it’s ok because I learned that she didn’t really want our neighbors to hear her yelling at me.  At some point I realized that my wife’s voice got softer as I got closer to an adjacent wall or window. This gave me some options to avoid being yelled at. Allow me to explain.

As you can see from the image below, we are looking at a standard duplex floor plan. The red areas indicate areas that are conducive to yelling while the green areas represent areas where yelling should be avoided.

So why did I break international protocol and identify safe areas as red and dangerous areas as green? Husbands, I think you know why. These green areas are safe for me, not safe for yelling. Like the soldiers in WWII who stormed the beaches of France, I am looking for that one area of protection, of safety, from the storms of marriage. (NOTE: Depending on the anger level, sometimes this method doesn’t work and I have to brave the storm no matter where I am.)

Husbands, I believe that this approach will work even if you don’t have adjoining walls with neighbors. I’m sure you could use an open window, your child’s bedroom door or another spot that could save you from certain wrath.

The point is this: Get to your safety zone!

What safety zones have you found?

  1. 3 Responses to “Yelling: Finding A Safe Place To Avoid Marriage Arguments”

  2. My saftey zone is my bedroom, where I lock myself in and work on my laptop or on my coupons. I have a few interuptions by my son with the banging on the door or the yelling of my name ten thousand times. It’s so funny you posted this because I was working on a post called His and Her rooms explaining how every couple should have one, so they don’t annoy the hell out of each other! Great site!

    By Victoria on Jan 22, 2013

  3. First off I would like to say terrific blog! I had a quick question that I’d like to ask if you do not mind. I was curious to know how you center yourself and clear your head prior to writing. I have had trouble clearing my mind in getting my ideas out. I do take pleasure in writing however it just seems like the first 10 to 15 minutes tend to be lost simply just trying to figure out how to begin. Any recommendations or tips? Thank you!

    By Brady on Feb 15, 2013

  4. Been following for a few years. Just saw your post, (a little late, I know). Best place is on the “love seat” while touching. I found that if we both are forced to hold each other and whisper, we can discuss the most explosive of topics. Every so often though she gets up, gets angry, and I head for cover!

    By Matt Brown on Mar 11, 2013

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