Marriage Advice: Determining When And How To Stop Having Kids
Here’s where we answer our readers’ questions. Please don’t blame us if our suggestions don’t work for you; you’re the one taking advice from a donkey.
Lookin’ to get fixed
Dear Donkey and Wife: My wife and I have two kids and aren’t sure if we should have another one. Any advice? We haven’t had any arguments yet. We don’t know how to decide. And what should we do if this is it for us? – Potentially closing up shop
He says: The husband is the winner this time
Shutting down the baby factory is a difficult decision. I don’t think I can give an answer without the full details. Unfortunately there isn’t a blanket answer. I do have an answer for the second question: What should you do if you decide to stop having kids.
There were serious complications when we had our fourth child so we decided to call it quits. Our doctor shared a little piece of wisdom with us that I would like to pass on to you. I think this will help.
He said that undergoing any surgery is serious; whether it’s a vasectomy or getting tubes tied. But he recommended that my wife go through with the procedure if we planned on doing something permanent because it’s my wife who was in danger.
He said to me, “What if you undergo the knife, and then your wife dies some time later and you get remarried to a young lady looking to have kids. What will you do? Reversing a vasectomy is not always successful and you may not be able to give your new wife what she wants.”
My interpretation: I might need to party if my wife dies, and I’ll want all my peeps there to support me.
I thought my wife would go crazy when he said this to us, but she said it made sense. We ended up choosing neither option, but maybe this advice will come in handy for you.
Oh, here’s something else the doctor said that we thought was funny: “You need to be comfortable being sterile.” I still haven’t found a way to work that into a conversation, but I am committed to keep trying.
