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Scheduled meltdown

Lots of things come to guys naturally: going to the bathroom, eating, sleeping, getting a good stretch in, staring off into space, and much more. One thing that might not come naturally to us is the ability to spontaneously compliment our wives. I am particularly poor at complimenting people, especially my wife. I just can’t seem to find a good way to bring up the fact that she is wearing a certain color shirt or that she has her hair in a certain style.

“Hey, you’ve got a blue shirt on… … … That’s good.”

“Oh, I see you’ve washed and brushed your hair. Good job.”

So I choose to say nothing.

I set a goal a few years ago to compliment my wife weekly to see if this would become more natural over time. This was a fleeting dream until I had an idea that would prove to be the best of times and the worst of times.

Lesson 33: Scheduling a time to compliment you wife is a risky move, especially if she has access to your calendar.

I began scheduling time at the beginning of each week to provide my wife with a few compliments. Although it never became habitual, I was beginning to impress my wife by at least making attempts on a weekly basis. Things were successful for a few weeks until my wife synchronized our calendars. “What’s this?” she asked herself as she looked at one of my agenda items. I immediately received a call and learned that it’s a sad state of affairs when a husband has to schedule time to compliment his wife. I abandoned this practice at once and reverted back to my pre-calendar state.

My suggestion: Don’t put stuff like this on your calendar. Not only will you get your wife mad, but you will embarrass yourself during a meeting in which your laptop is being used to display an important project. BING! Here comes a reminder to … compliment your wife??? A good idea might be to pre-write a bunch of compliments and then put them in your toiletries drawer. That way you will remember every day (or every few days depending on cleaning habits) to compliment your wife.