Comments on: He Said She Said: Should the Husband or Wife Choose the Baby’s Name?

By: baby boy

baby boy — Wed, 25 Jun 2008 17:46:58 +0000

We had a different agreement on the baby names, we pick them together. It was a hard work but we did it.

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Fri, 20 Jun 2008 14:37:41 +0000

[...] Name Game [...]

By: bella

bella — Thu, 19 Jun 2008 15:42:17 +0000

it seems like he’s only shooting boys so it’s only fair if the rules change!!!

By: Bob

Bob — Thu, 19 Jun 2008 00:42:46 +0000

The funny thing about this debate are those who claim that the Wife has more of a say because she gives birth, says the baby’s name more, and is around more. It sounds like these comments are in favor of the Wife being a dictator in the house because the home is her “domain” and the children and Donkey are her subjects. Will these same people agree that Donkey gets absolute power when dealing with money and finances becuase he is the one with a career? The Wife delivers the baby so it is HERS and the Donkey delivers the money so it is HIS. Is this what some of you are suggesting?

By: Mr. Mustachio

Mr. Mustachio — Wed, 18 Jun 2008 18:04:12 +0000

Firstly, this vote is statistically skewed. The vote seems to be based on the sex of the voter, and there are far more women who are reading this than there are men.

Secondly, here is the obvious solution:

1. Don’t find out what you are having.

2. Go with The Donkey’s suggestion. One of you choses a first name and the other choses a middle name. That way you each will have a name you can call the child. (It works with our son, Geronimo.)

3. Don’t let each other know what names are on your lists. Everybody likes the joy of a good surprise. Not only will you be filled with the joy that comes with the surprise of what sex the child is, but you will infinitely add to that with the surprise of the names that you each have picked out. Plus it will avoid the long, drawn-out animosity you will have toward one another due to names you don’t like for the duration of the pregnancy. If you postpone those feelings until the big day, the euphoria of childbirth won’t allow there to be any ill will.

4. You should allow for your internet readers to suggest and vote on possible names for you to consider. I suggest the following:

Kent (As a tribute to all the dyslexic comic book fans in the world.)

Lewis or Luisa (To honor important characters from our nation’s rich history.)

Dylan, Brandon, Steve, Brenda, Andrea, Kelly, Donna, Emily Valentine, Joey, Pacey, Dawson, Chachi, The Fonz, Michael Knight, Airwolf, Shaggy, Dafne, Mushmouth, Weird Harold, Murdock, Mr. T, Face, Hannibal, or Punky. (So that great shows of T.V.’s past will not be forgotten).

By: Ashleigh

Ashleigh — Wed, 18 Jun 2008 16:23:24 +0000

Here’s another thought . . . who says the name more in a day? They should have superior veto power? And while I think the mutual and joint effort of child naming would be the best situation, it just doesn’t work for some personalities and some couples, so then fairness/equality should come into play.
Good Luck! I dread the day we have a boy . . . it will be the epic battle of names because my husband is so dead set on a name I hate. I sometimes feel that we’ve been given 2 girls first so that by the time 3rd or 4th child comes and it’s a boy I will love my husband enough to go along with his name.

By: Shanna

Shanna — Wed, 18 Jun 2008 15:27:32 +0000

I’m with Shannon on this one. Why can’t it be a mutual effort? Why can’t you both come up with your “list of names” and narrow it down to one you both agree on. And it doesn’t really matter who fills out the paperwork at the hospital, I know someone who changed their childs name 4 times in the first year. 4 TIMES!! They didn’t have to pay to change the name either. They were told they could change it as many times as they wanted in the first year for no charge.

By: Doug

Doug — Wed, 18 Jun 2008 14:50:07 +0000

I agree with Arthur… let her sink or swim on her own. You still have several months. Let her pick whatever she wants. It may turn out fine, and if not, just keep your mouth shut then write in whatever name you want when you’re filling out the paperwork at the hospital.

By: Arthur Dent

Arthur Dent — Wed, 18 Jun 2008 14:38:39 +0000

Mr. Donkey: I’m not sure if this would work in your situation, but an idea comes to mind when thinking of my sweet wife. Surrender completely, tell her she’s right, she should pick the name. But then offer no assistance, no opinions, no suggestions. Mrs. Dent is terrible at making decisions – not that she makes bad decisions, but the act of deciding is grueling for her and she frequently can’t do it.

So she might surrender and humbly accept your wise plan. But I guess there’s the risk she’ll call your bluff and name your child something lame, trendy and embarassing. But hey, it’s not my baby!

By: karlmalone

karlmalone — Wed, 18 Jun 2008 07:00:00 +0000

What about Bob?