Comments on: Marriage Advice: When your wife says, “You won’t be in trouble.” http://www.wifeadvice.com/2008/05/marriage-advice-when-your-wife-says-%e2%80%9cyou-won%e2%80%99t-be-in-trouble%e2%80%9d/ Funny marriage stories from a clueless husband and his patient wife Tue, 07 Sep 2010 13:09:00 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: WifeAdvice.com - funny marriage stories from a clueless husband and his patient wife » Blog Archive » Can a Father Babysit His Own Kids? http://www.wifeadvice.com/2008/05/marriage-advice-when-your-wife-says-%e2%80%9cyou-won%e2%80%99t-be-in-trouble%e2%80%9d/comment-page-1/#comment-2120 WifeAdvice.com - funny marriage stories from a clueless husband and his patient wife » Blog Archive » Can a Father Babysit His Own Kids? Fri, 30 May 2008 13:34:33 +0000 http://www.wifeadvice.com/?p=464#comment-2120 [...] post: Marriage Advice–When Your Wife Says You Won’t be in Trouble Read more in: Enquiring Minds by The Donkey and The Wife May 30, [...] [...] post: Marriage Advice–When Your Wife Says You Won’t be in Trouble Read more in: Enquiring Minds by The Donkey and The Wife May 30, [...]

]]> By: April http://www.wifeadvice.com/2008/05/marriage-advice-when-your-wife-says-%e2%80%9cyou-won%e2%80%99t-be-in-trouble%e2%80%9d/comment-page-1/#comment-2052 April Fri, 02 May 2008 17:54:50 +0000 http://www.wifeadvice.com/?p=464#comment-2052 I agree with Kelly. When I say I'm not going to be upset about something, I'm not going to be. I have noooo problem letting my husband know when he's doing something I don't want him to. And then. This idea men have of "getting in trouble" is really strange to me. I hate it when my husband says, "If I do (such and such) I will 'be in trouble'" what the heck is that? He's not going to get in trouble unless he makes me mad by saying he's going to get in trouble. I agree with Kelly. When I say I’m not going to be upset about something, I’m not going to be.

I have noooo problem letting my husband know when he’s doing something I don’t want him to. And then.

This idea men have of “getting in trouble” is really strange to me. I hate it when my husband says, “If I do (such and such) I will ‘be in trouble’” what the heck is that? He’s not going to get in trouble unless he makes me mad by saying he’s going to get in trouble.

]]> By: chelsea http://www.wifeadvice.com/2008/05/marriage-advice-when-your-wife-says-%e2%80%9cyou-won%e2%80%99t-be-in-trouble%e2%80%9d/comment-page-1/#comment-2045 chelsea Fri, 02 May 2008 14:30:42 +0000 http://www.wifeadvice.com/?p=464#comment-2045 i agree with karl that there are never good results when one is put on the spot. as a member of said family and at said instance, those boys can gang up on you and then you feel really stupid, it's happened to me plenty of times and will happen again i can be sure. rog gets in trouble plenty when he puts me on the spot, he should know better. i agree with karl that there are never good results when one is put on the spot. as a member of said family and at said instance, those boys can gang up on you and then you feel really stupid, it’s happened to me plenty of times and will happen again i can be sure. rog gets in trouble plenty when he puts me on the spot, he should know better.

]]> By: karlmalone http://www.wifeadvice.com/2008/05/marriage-advice-when-your-wife-says-%e2%80%9cyou-won%e2%80%99t-be-in-trouble%e2%80%9d/comment-page-1/#comment-2044 karlmalone Fri, 02 May 2008 04:19:04 +0000 http://www.wifeadvice.com/?p=464#comment-2044 First I agree with Shannon who noted that one cannot babysit one's own children. The definition of babysit is to 1. to take charge of a child while the parents are temporarily away. Which if you are the parent you are not temporarily away unless you have spells of schizophrenia in which I suppose means that at times it might seem like babysitting, but I digress... It is probably best to discuss things you either know or suspect the spouse won't like in private. You must take them at face value at that point because they had an opportunity to air an objection but did not take it. I think this situation might have been difficult since the meddling brother and others were around. She might have been put on the spot. First I agree with Shannon who noted that one cannot babysit one’s own children. The definition of babysit is to 1. to take charge of a child while the parents are temporarily away. Which if you are the parent you are not temporarily away unless you have spells of schizophrenia in which I suppose means that at times it might seem like babysitting, but I digress…

It is probably best to discuss things you either know or suspect the spouse won’t like in private. You must take them at face value at that point because they had an opportunity to air an objection but did not take it. I think this situation might have been difficult since the meddling brother and others were around. She might have been put on the spot.

]]> By: Kelly http://www.wifeadvice.com/2008/05/marriage-advice-when-your-wife-says-%e2%80%9cyou-won%e2%80%99t-be-in-trouble%e2%80%9d/comment-page-1/#comment-2043 Kelly Fri, 02 May 2008 02:02:45 +0000 http://www.wifeadvice.com/?p=464#comment-2043 so again, back to my orginal comment, what if it isn't a game, what if those were her true feelings, that she wanted him to go? so again, back to my orginal comment, what if it isn’t a game, what if those were her true feelings, that she wanted him to go?

]]> By: Kelly http://www.wifeadvice.com/2008/05/marriage-advice-when-your-wife-says-%e2%80%9cyou-won%e2%80%99t-be-in-trouble%e2%80%9d/comment-page-1/#comment-2042 Kelly Thu, 01 May 2008 22:18:10 +0000 http://www.wifeadvice.com/?p=464#comment-2042 Shannon, I'm with you on this. . .how is it that you "babysit" your own children? Isn't that called parenting? Shannon, I’m with you on this. . .how is it that you “babysit” your own children? Isn’t that called parenting?

]]> By: Shannon http://www.wifeadvice.com/2008/05/marriage-advice-when-your-wife-says-%e2%80%9cyou-won%e2%80%99t-be-in-trouble%e2%80%9d/comment-page-1/#comment-2041 Shannon Thu, 01 May 2008 22:17:47 +0000 http://www.wifeadvice.com/?p=464#comment-2041 Oh, one more question...how do you babysit your own kids? Or do you mean you are watching someone elses kids too? Oh, one more question…how do you babysit your own kids? Or do you mean you are watching someone elses kids too?

]]> By: Shannon http://www.wifeadvice.com/2008/05/marriage-advice-when-your-wife-says-%e2%80%9cyou-won%e2%80%99t-be-in-trouble%e2%80%9d/comment-page-1/#comment-2040 Shannon Thu, 01 May 2008 22:17:30 +0000 http://www.wifeadvice.com/?p=464#comment-2040 I'm a fan of direct communication...not the I'm going to say one thing but mean another. There is a but though...in the early days of our relationship and I was around his family, I was less vocal. Like one time they wanted us to go to a museum and the thought of how bored I'd be there was driving me up a wall, but when they asked my husband if we wanted to go and he said yes I just smiled and waited until we had a private moment to tell him pleaseeeeee no! Then he played it cool and suggested casually somewhere else we could go to them and we did and it all worked out. Teamwork is what it is all about. And now after spending enough time with his family, I'd welcome the break and time alone! I'd be like sure, go to dinner! Not that I don't like them, but I like my time alone too and need a break once in a while from being on my best behavior. The revealing thing about this post is the writers comment "it's her problem isn't it" Doesn't seem to be like a real team player kinda guy when he says that. Those are fighting words. I’m a fan of direct communication…not the I’m going to say one thing but mean another. There is a but though…in the early days of our relationship and I was around his family, I was less vocal. Like one time they wanted us to go to a museum and the thought of how bored I’d be there was driving me up a wall, but when they asked my husband if we wanted to go and he said yes I just smiled and waited until we had a private moment to tell him pleaseeeeee no! Then he played it cool and suggested casually somewhere else we could go to them and we did and it all worked out. Teamwork is what it is all about.

And now after spending enough time with his family, I’d welcome the break and time alone! I’d be like sure, go to dinner! Not that I don’t like them, but I like my time alone too and need a break once in a while from being on my best behavior.

The revealing thing about this post is the writers comment “it’s her problem isn’t it” Doesn’t seem to be like a real team player kinda guy when he says that. Those are fighting words.

]]> By: Kelly http://www.wifeadvice.com/2008/05/marriage-advice-when-your-wife-says-%e2%80%9cyou-won%e2%80%99t-be-in-trouble%e2%80%9d/comment-page-1/#comment-2039 Kelly Thu, 01 May 2008 22:16:38 +0000 http://www.wifeadvice.com/?p=464#comment-2039 FYI, not all women play games. I absolutely would have been fine if he had just gone. I just spent an entire weekend with many of his family members and would have welcomed the peace and quiet. In fact I was upset to think that he retorted that he would get in trouble. I'm pretty straight forward if I care or don't care. In case you're wondering, we both went to dinner. (you're treading on thin ice when you publish stories that don't directly involve you and you don't tell them UNTIL they're reading it!) FYI, not all women play games. I absolutely would have been fine if he had just gone. I just spent an entire weekend with many of his family members and would have welcomed the peace and quiet. In fact I was upset to think that he retorted that he would get in trouble. I’m pretty straight forward if I care or don’t care.

In case you’re wondering, we both went to dinner.

(you’re treading on thin ice when you publish stories that don’t directly involve you and you don’t tell them UNTIL they’re reading it!)

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