Comments on: Get Wife’s Permission Before Inviting Your Mom to The Birth of Your Child http://www.wifeadvice.com/2008/05/get-wifes-permission-before-inviting-your-mom-to-the-birth-of-your-child/ Funny marriage stories from a clueless husband and his patient wife Wed, 28 Jul 2010 17:44:13 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Laurie http://www.wifeadvice.com/2008/05/get-wifes-permission-before-inviting-your-mom-to-the-birth-of-your-child/comment-page-1/#comment-2152 Laurie Sun, 08 Jun 2008 01:55:14 +0000 http://www.wifeadvice.com/?p=481#comment-2152 While my mother-in-law wasn't in the room for the deliverly she insisted on being there in the labor room for a while. At that point, we weren't on the best of terms so I wasn't crazy about having her in there. She did what she usually does and tried to get my hub to give her all of his attention. I was thrilled when she left. If she had stayed for the delivery, I would have been a single parent. While my mother-in-law wasn’t in the room for the deliverly she insisted on being there in the labor room for a while. At that point, we weren’t on the best of terms so I wasn’t crazy about having her in there. She did what she usually does and tried to get my hub to give her all of his attention. I was thrilled when she left. If she had stayed for the delivery, I would have been a single parent.

]]> By: Karen http://www.wifeadvice.com/2008/05/get-wifes-permission-before-inviting-your-mom-to-the-birth-of-your-child/comment-page-1/#comment-2140 Karen Mon, 02 Jun 2008 18:28:39 +0000 http://www.wifeadvice.com/?p=481#comment-2140 Wow. It's a very personal decision but if you ask me...no way. No one was there for the delivery, but my mother & step father in law waltzed in right after (even though I told my husband I didn't want to see anyone) and talked for what felt like forever - all I wanted to do was sleep! I wish Mike would have stood up for me instead of being afraid of hurting his fam's feelings. For the next one I don't want any in-laws there at all to avoid all risk of hurt feelings. So when making the decision consider how shy you are and the personality of your fam...would they understand that they're not doing any of the work so they shouldn't be upset if asked to leave? Wow. It’s a very personal decision but if you ask me…no way. No one was there for the delivery, but my mother & step father in law waltzed in right after (even though I told my husband I didn’t want to see anyone) and talked for what felt like forever – all I wanted to do was sleep! I wish Mike would have stood up for me instead of being afraid of hurting his fam’s feelings. For the next one I don’t want any in-laws there at all to avoid all risk of hurt feelings. So when making the decision consider how shy you are and the personality of your fam…would they understand that they’re not doing any of the work so they shouldn’t be upset if asked to leave?

]]> By: celine http://www.wifeadvice.com/2008/05/get-wifes-permission-before-inviting-your-mom-to-the-birth-of-your-child/comment-page-1/#comment-2119 celine Thu, 29 May 2008 06:09:56 +0000 http://www.wifeadvice.com/?p=481#comment-2119 i was glad not to have anyone there the first time, but everything went so well -- i want EVERYONE there for the second. It is definitely not something that I think anyone would be sure about sharing the first time -- there are so many curiosities about what is going to take place, I don't think outside visitors really help the situation for the first experience. Although, if it is going to be the only one, definitely consider bringing in the crowds. It is quite awesome, and something worth sharing. i was glad not to have anyone there the first time, but everything went so well — i want EVERYONE there for the second.

It is definitely not something that I think anyone would be sure about sharing the first time — there are so many curiosities about what is going to take place, I don’t think outside visitors really help the situation for the first experience. Although, if it is going to be the only one, definitely consider bringing in the crowds. It is quite awesome, and something worth sharing.

]]> By: Jane http://www.wifeadvice.com/2008/05/get-wifes-permission-before-inviting-your-mom-to-the-birth-of-your-child/comment-page-1/#comment-2118 Jane Wed, 28 May 2008 21:22:51 +0000 http://www.wifeadvice.com/?p=481#comment-2118 This is definitely something you ask your wife about first. Some women might not mind, but your wife might have been anticipating the moment when the two of you shared meeting your child together. I bet she was upset that you invited others to share that very intimate moment. I'm glad you know now not to do it again!!! This is definitely something you ask your wife about first. Some women might not mind, but your wife might have been anticipating the moment when the two of you shared meeting your child together. I bet she was upset that you invited others to share that very intimate moment. I’m glad you know now not to do it again!!!

]]> By: Joe http://www.wifeadvice.com/2008/05/get-wifes-permission-before-inviting-your-mom-to-the-birth-of-your-child/comment-page-1/#comment-2117 Joe Wed, 28 May 2008 20:06:36 +0000 http://www.wifeadvice.com/?p=481#comment-2117 Someone walking around with a camera could distract people. I would hide it under some gauze pads or something. You still get the raw footage and yet you don't upset your wife Someone walking around with a camera could distract people. I would hide it under some gauze pads or something. You still get the raw footage and yet you don’t upset your wife

]]> By: Shannon http://www.wifeadvice.com/2008/05/get-wifes-permission-before-inviting-your-mom-to-the-birth-of-your-child/comment-page-1/#comment-2116 Shannon Wed, 28 May 2008 18:59:40 +0000 http://www.wifeadvice.com/?p=481#comment-2116 I get that men can be immature sometimes, but there are just certain times in life that a guy just has to step up and be mature and while his wife is pregnant and definitely during delivery is one of them. If I shot my husband a look and he overode that and let his Mom watch, he'd be sorry. You can't do over a birth. You can't talk about it and come to some common agreement on it later. I wouldn't want the birth of my child clouded by the experience of my Mother in law looking on. I'd have been more vocal and it would never happen, but in that moment it's not up to the one giving birth to be the calm voice of reason, she has other things to focus on right then. And anger at her husband's weakness shouldn't be one of them right then. I think this is a lesson to all that read it and are going to have kids down the line...talk about it first. Agree on who you want or don't want in the delivery room and when it's okay for someone to be in there and when it's not. And then husbands...honor that. Don't be cowardly and let someone push their way in that the mother of your child obviously doesn't want there. I get that men can be immature sometimes, but there are just certain times in life that a guy just has to step up and be mature and while his wife is pregnant and definitely during delivery is one of them.
If I shot my husband a look and he overode that and let his Mom watch, he’d be sorry. You can’t do over a birth. You can’t talk about it and come to some common agreement on it later. I wouldn’t want the birth of my child clouded by the experience of my Mother in law looking on. I’d have been more vocal and it would never happen, but in that moment it’s not up to the one giving birth to be the calm voice of reason, she has other things to focus on right then. And anger at her husband’s weakness shouldn’t be one of them right then.
I think this is a lesson to all that read it and are going to have kids down the line…talk about it first. Agree on who you want or don’t want in the delivery room and when it’s okay for someone to be in there and when it’s not. And then husbands…honor that. Don’t be cowardly and let someone push their way in that the mother of your child obviously doesn’t want there.

]]> By: Jia http://www.wifeadvice.com/2008/05/get-wifes-permission-before-inviting-your-mom-to-the-birth-of-your-child/comment-page-1/#comment-2115 Jia Wed, 28 May 2008 18:46:34 +0000 http://www.wifeadvice.com/?p=481#comment-2115 Oh wow. Do you still have scars from the incident? LOL! I've already agreed to allow my Mother in Law in the room, but that's only because she was really heartbroken that my Sister in Law didn't let her in for the first 2 grandkids. I have however, forbidden anyone from looking at the miracle as it's in progress. Oh wow.

Do you still have scars from the incident? LOL! I’ve already agreed to allow my Mother in Law in the room, but that’s only because she was really heartbroken that my Sister in Law didn’t let her in for the first 2 grandkids.

I have however, forbidden anyone from looking at the miracle as it’s in progress.

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