Comments on: Should Husbands and Wives Look Through Each Other’s Emails?

By: Sandy

Sandy — Mon, 31 Mar 2008 21:03:30 +0000

I think so. But, I agree with what’s been said above – if you’re reading every single email every single day, then you have trust issues. But, if you don’t want to give your wife your password because you’re afraid of what she might find out, then there’s also a problem. My husband and I have an agreement – if he’s getting emails related to a surprise, he tells me not to read his emails for a few days. I hardly ever do, unless I’m in his account looking for a specific email (such as something from our wireless company, who will only email his account) – at that point, I’ll skim a little and see if anything looks bad.

By: Susan

Susan — Sun, 30 Mar 2008 21:05:56 +0000

No, we don’t.
My husband’s emails are mainly work related and mine are usually from my girlfriends.

I wonder how about friend’s privacy? Like they confine something in you and least expected that your spouse is reading the mails as well.

By: Ashleigh

Ashleigh — Tue, 25 Mar 2008 22:33:24 +0000

I’m the inquiring mind in our marriage and so I look through his e-mail account every so often. I find e-mails about friends who had babies, or friends that wanted to catch up for dinner, or family news, etc. He always “forgot” to mention anything about any one of them, so I figure it’s a darn good thing I look. As for him, he could care less about what sale my friend found, or what day I’ll be meeting at the park, etc. In addition, I think that I talk enough that he’s pretty re-assured that I’m not forgetting to mention anything important (and not important) him. Either way, we don’t care. There’s no privacy for us . . . we’re married.

By: Nathaniel

Nathaniel — Mon, 24 Mar 2008 04:13:52 +0000

My wife has no reason to read my email and I have no reason to read hers. However, if she did decide to read through my email I wouldn’t care one bit. I don’t talk to anyone about anything that I wouldn’t feel comfortable with her knowing. I don’t do anything that would get me in trouble if she found out. So, simply put, the issue of privacy is a non-issue to me. To me, privacy is for those who are doing something wrong, embarrassing, etc.

Also, I’m smart enough to realize that if I wanted to do something behind her back, I wouldn’t leave as obvious a trail as email. If someone is messing around and the have email evidence of this, then they deserve to get caught.

By: agoodhusband

agoodhusband — Sat, 22 Mar 2008 17:09:40 +0000

I never look at my wife’s email, and she never looks at mine. We’ve no reason to. I think it’s kinda strange that people would. Not in any sort of sinister way, mind you, more like…why?

I’ve no need to read her emails from her family and friends, and she has no interest in reading about all of my blogging activity.

By: DanaB

DanaB — Sat, 22 Mar 2008 14:39:35 +0000

Never tho’t about it, he’s always showing me something or other in his email–which I know the password for–and vice versa. It’s never been an issue and I think that’s the way to go.

By: Jane

Jane — Fri, 21 Mar 2008 22:21:12 +0000

We have separate computers, so it never comes up. His is his work computer, and almost all of his e-mails are work related. In fact, he makes it clear that he doesn’t read jokes, etc. when sent to him. I don’t think he has any interest in my e-mails either.

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By: silli

silli — Fri, 21 Mar 2008 15:06:34 +0000

Depends on the context:

In the context of my current marriage, we don’t make it a habit, but will sometimes look stuff up or check out an email from a mutual acquaintance. It’s pretty easygoing. And there is the understanding that we are allowed to kvetch about each other, so if I am reading *his* email and see something unflattering, well, my bad for snooping.

With my ex? Different scenario – he was intensely private and refused to look at my emails or forum posts (even when I asked him to for some reason)That was how he was until we separated, at least. Then he tried to hack all my accounts So much for privacy!

So it allllllll depends ;->

By: Amy

Amy — Fri, 21 Mar 2008 14:09:15 +0000

We do. We have nothing to hide, except maybe a few surprises for each other on a rare occassion. I agree with the other comments about trust. We trust each other, so it’s not like we HAVE to read the emails, but since he tends to forget to tell me things when he is really busy at work, I will look to see if there is anything I need to be aware of.