Comments on: He Said She Said: Should a Husband be Forced to Wear a Wedding Ring?

By: runner

runner — Thu, 29 Apr 2010 23:45:39 +0000

THis question is interesting because she needs to get to the heart of why he does not wear the ring. If he might not be answering her honestly she should look at his other behaviors – that will give her the answer. If he shamelessly flirts with the teenage girls that look at him and stares at every women that goes by than perhaps she is right to be concerned he does not wear his ring. Men and women think differently. No one instance can provide insight into someone else’s thoughts. Actions mean more than words- always.

By: Bryan

Bryan — Thu, 22 Apr 2010 20:10:06 +0000

That’s cool, I wish I had a wife like that-

By: cb3000

cb3000 — Fri, 28 Nov 2008 21:53:41 +0000

My Wife does not care quite so much if I wear her wedding ring because she requires me to wear a CB-3000 chastity device. A wedding rang can be taken off, this can’t.

By: jessica

jessica — Mon, 24 Nov 2008 21:15:25 +0000

I nosticed my husband was not wearing his wedding ring.He told me he lost the ring.I feel rejected and hurt.He don’t care that the ring is lost.He say he doesn;t want to wear a ring anyway.I;ve been cryin all night.HE don;t care.

By: jessica

jessica — Mon, 24 Nov 2008 21:04:19 +0000

I nosticed my husband was not wearing his wedding ring.He told me he lost the ring.I feel rejected and hurt.He don’t care that the is lost.He say he doesn;t want to wear a ring anyway.I;ve been cryin all night.

By: Shannon

Shannon — Tue, 24 Jun 2008 18:16:02 +0000

Stephani, I say you are overreacting. Working in certain industries like farming, automotive, construction etc, it is just flat out dangerous to wear a ring.
This is my personal opinion on the subject of rings…I think it should be a personal choice if one wants to wear one or not. And a guy has a right to not like wearing a ring.
I hate the way a watch feels on my wrist, it feels awkward…so I don’t wear a watch. When we got married my husband said he didn’t like the feeling of having a ring on and I don’t blame him so I said don’t wear it. We used a cheapo for the ceremony and that was it, he put it up for safekeeping. To not have something on your finger for all those years and then bam have it on it, it would feel weird.
Some people use the “but it shows he loves me or it shows other women he’s married” argument. I don’t believe the ring signifies anything. I don’t need to mark my husband.
A man is either faithful or he isn’t, a ring doesn’t factor in. If a woman hits on my husband when he’s out, so be it. It’s up to him to say hey I’m flattered, but I’m married.
And Stephani, you asked “if he loved me enough, would he wear it to make me happy” I think it could be reversed and the question asked “if you loved him enough would you agree for him not to wear to make him happy”
Bottom line is it sounds like it might be about more than the ring if you have doubts over something like that.

By: Stephani

Stephani — Tue, 24 Jun 2008 12:09:37 +0000

My husband and I are approaching our first anniversary. Last night I noticed he was not wearing his ring. He said that because he works in the farm industry it’s just not practical and he hates the way it feels. He says it does not mean he loves me less but basically said he won’t put it back on. He carries it in his jeans pocket instead. I myself can’t get over this. I’ve been crying all night/morning. Am I over-reacting? Is this a sign that he wants to appear single? If he loved me enough would he wear it to make me happy?

By: Angela

Angela — Thu, 17 Apr 2008 14:44:04 +0000

I’m having the same delima with my fiance right now. I haven’t argued the point because my issue is with the fact that he doesn’t WANT to wear the ring. This is the second marriage for both of us and he wore his ring every day for 10 years with his first wife. I take this very personally and I feel rejected and devalued by his decision. This is so hurtful to me that I have been reconsidering the marriage.

By: Steph

Steph — Mon, 24 Mar 2008 19:02:10 +0000

You should wear the ring because it makes your wife happy.

They make nicer rings that are made to be comfortable. You may want to try one on for size. Or as an alternative you could get a ring tattoo and then you will both win. You won’t have to wear anything that is uncomfortable with the exception of the initial pain and you will clearly be off the market.

By: Kat

Kat — Mon, 18 Feb 2008 02:44:43 +0000

I too hated wearing rings. It’s too heavy and I literally feel I couldn’t breathe. We had inexpensive rings, which is good because I lost mine three days after I got it. (Do I need to say the husband and I eventually separated?)

However, I totally agree with wife’s reason #1. This kind of wife-reasoning is infallible.

Donkey, pleeeease CHOOSE to wear the ring and the hat! CHOOSE TO because WIFE SAID SO! LOL

(Next time around, I’ll have my ring SOLDERED. Now wifey, don’t get any funny ideas for donkey’s hoof there.)