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I came across an interesting article about health and marriage. Two researchers studied the effects of good and bad marriages on healing physical wounds. These researchers discovered that couples identified as “hostile” took up to 40% longer to heal from general sicknesses or wounds. On the other side, healthy marriages act as a buffer against illness and stressful jobs.

I thought about this and the fact that my wife and I got really sick recently. She has been sick for almost 3 weeks and I have been sick half that time. Is she hostile? Am I? Are we both? Why has she been sick for so long?

As I continued to think about this, I recalled a conversation my wife and I just had last night. She was trying to explain something to me and I had no clue what she was talking about. At one point she got so frustrated with my lack of understanding that she started pounding her hands on the desk several times. The following conversation ensued:

Donkey: Whoa. Thank goodness there weren’t any forks lying on the desk, they would have been flying all over the room!

Wife: Oh yes, it’s a good thing–because I normally have forks all over my desk.

Donkey: Well, you never know; you are always leaving empty bowls all over the place.

Wife: I don’t use forks with bowls, but nice try.

Donkey: What about when you eat macaroni and cheese?

Wife: *Sigh* …I guess you’re right. You just might get forks stuck in your face one of these days.

I think the researchers should study whether or not discussing flying forks with your spouse should be termed as “hostile” and how one might approach the subject. Tonight I am going to try talking to my wife about the fondue pot that she broke and why she didn’t tell me about it when it first happened. She will either wake up healthy tomorrow, or I will spend the night pulling those little fondue sticks out of my head. Actually, I think I will go hide those now to avoid the latter scenario.

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