Comments on: Does Your Spouse Need To Know About Previous Relationships?

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Tue, 05 Feb 2008 16:37:00 +0000

I echo that NEVER reveal a past transgression, if you’ve truly repented the Lord has forgotten it, don’t tell a [future] spouse who might not so easily forget.

By: Doc

Doc — Wed, 30 Jan 2008 19:08:00 +0000

Yes. Both parties should know. And I think nitty gritty details are good too.

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Tue, 29 Jan 2008 09:51:00 +0000

I would say don’t discuss but I don’t think a spouse will go for it. They think they want to know but if they could see into the future it is probably best that they don’t.Never reveal a past transgression. It should be forgotten not rehashed.

By: Vatermann

Vatermann — Tue, 29 Jan 2008 04:29:00 +0000

Talking about past relationships to the wife is just like handing her enough rope to hang you both with.

I adopted a full disclosure policy and have lived to regret it. Some of this ties into letting your spouse read your journal.

By: LiteMike

LiteMike — Tue, 29 Jan 2008 02:20:00 +0000

I don’t think anything needs to be discussed, not even potential diseases. most states require certain STD tests before marriage so you will be forced to disclose bad news anyway. no sense giving people unnecessary scaresplus, wives get crazy ideas sometimes. i once said that my wife’s friend looked like an ex I had. Needless to say I can no longer bring up my wife’s friend without some comment from my wife about my ex

By: <3 April J.

<3 April J. — Mon, 28 Jan 2008 23:35:00 +0000

I think the fiance should be informed if you’ve had any type of past, and things mentioned in the above comment should definitely be disclosed but as to the rest of it, it’s really up to the other partner.For example, I let my spouse know before being married and asked if he watned to know but he said he knows who I am now and that’s what matters. And that’s true. You should be judged based on your current actions, not things from the past that you can’t change.

By: phillyz

phillyz — Mon, 28 Jan 2008 21:20:00 +0000

this is up to both people, but it should be brought up and let them both decide. major details that might affect that person should probably be discussed. for example a future spouse should know in advance if their fiancee could potentially be carrying some kind of disease due to past activity. or if it was a relationship that was homosexual or with a married person, these may affect the future spouse’s opinion and desire to marry that person