Comments on: Marriage Advice: What to do when your spouse is always late http://www.wifeadvice.com/2007/12/worth-the-wait/ Funny marriage stories from a clueless husband and his patient wife Sat, 04 Feb 2012 04:15:43 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.5 By: Onefootouthedoor http://www.wifeadvice.com/2007/12/worth-the-wait/comment-page-1/#comment-2635 Onefootouthedoor Sat, 16 Aug 2008 22:58:35 +0000 http://images.wifeadvice.com/blog/?p=152#comment-2635 Wow, Reading this is like a replay of our last family commitment. I'm learning to carve out my own life and not doing things with my spouse that require joint arrival. Seriously. After twenty-five years together, I am asking myself if all of the small and large "drive me nuts" items are really worth staying for. It's not a question of "do you love your spouse?" For me it's more of: "Can I live with this unchanged 24/7 for the rest of my life?" Probably not. I made a mistake and need to seriously look at a more compatible match in the future. Or preferably at this point moving on to a single life, where my decision-making ability, like promptness, is respected and followed. Wow,

Reading this is like a replay of our last family commitment. I’m learning to carve out my own life and not doing things with my spouse that require joint arrival. Seriously. After twenty-five years together, I am asking myself if all of the small and large “drive me nuts” items are really worth staying for. It’s not a question of “do you love your spouse?” For me it’s more of: “Can I live with this unchanged 24/7 for the rest of my life?” Probably not. I made a mistake and need to seriously look at a more compatible match in the future. Or preferably at this point moving on to a single life, where my decision-making ability, like promptness, is respected and followed.

]]> By: tired http://www.wifeadvice.com/2007/12/worth-the-wait/comment-page-1/#comment-1681 tired Thu, 28 Feb 2008 05:00:05 +0000 http://images.wifeadvice.com/blog/?p=152#comment-1681 OMG....this is hilarious....and sounds oh, so familiar!!! OMG….this is hilarious….and sounds oh, so familiar!!!

]]> By: wifelikeme http://www.wifeadvice.com/2007/12/worth-the-wait/comment-page-1/#comment-494 wifelikeme Mon, 03 Dec 2007 22:18:00 +0000 http://images.wifeadvice.com/blog/?p=152#comment-494 Perpetual "late-ers" do it on purpose. Its a form of control. Mine does the same thing. If I say we need to leave at 3pm (I like a little buffer to allow for traffic, etc) and he figures we don't need to leave till 3:15. He denies that is is conscious. On the rare occasions that he is ready early *by accident* he will conveniently "have to go to the bathroom" which takes precisely as much time as needed to get him to 3:15.<br/><br/>Can't change him, so I just lie about the times and we show up right on schedule. <br/><br/>One time I let on during the drive that we actually didn't need to be there until 30 min after he thought... and wouldn't you know it - after recomposing himself after realizing he was caught - he found a reason to take a detour and run an errand and make us late as usual. Perpetual “late-ers” do it on purpose. Its a form of control. Mine does the same thing. If I say we need to leave at 3pm (I like a little buffer to allow for traffic, etc) and he figures we don’t need to leave till 3:15. He denies that is is conscious. On the rare occasions that he is ready early *by accident* he will conveniently “have to go to the bathroom” which takes precisely as much time as needed to get him to 3:15.Can’t change him, so I just lie about the times and we show up right on schedule. One time I let on during the drive that we actually didn’t need to be there until 30 min after he thought… and wouldn’t you know it – after recomposing himself after realizing he was caught – he found a reason to take a detour and run an errand and make us late as usual.

]]> By: phillyz http://www.wifeadvice.com/2007/12/worth-the-wait/comment-page-1/#comment-493 phillyz Mon, 03 Dec 2007 22:08:00 +0000 http://images.wifeadvice.com/blog/?p=152#comment-493 i also have a spouse who is not very time conscentious but i find the more i remind her of how slow she is the worse her mood, so i just let her take her sweet time and then nearly kill us in a 120 mph crash course to make up the lost time. after a few tickets and near death experiences she gets the point- now all i have to do is stand next to the door with the keys in my hand and a glazed look in my eye. i also have a spouse who is not very time conscentious but i find the more i remind her of how slow she is the worse her mood, so i just let her take her sweet time and then nearly kill us in a 120 mph crash course to make up the lost time. after a few tickets and near death experiences she gets the point- now all i have to do is stand next to the door with the keys in my hand and a glazed look in my eye.

]]>