Comments on: What to Do When Your Wife Doesn’t Want to Lose the Baby Weight

By: K

Sun, 25 Jul 2010 07:20:49 +0000

Not sure how relaxed the relationship is, but in my own I can express my liking toward another girl’s figure without getting slapped. Maybe you can, even if you have to deal with the terror for a moment, express your desire for a particular figure as possessed by a desirable lady at some point. Such mentionings will not go unnoticed, and they will work a spike through her brain. They feel a NEED to be desired more than any other woman by the man they are with. Let that be the foundation of any method you attempt.

There’s also coming out and saying, “I do enjoy a toned figure, but I love every ounce of who you are.” Or maybe something that sounds less like you’re saying she’s fat. Point being, the hint of you suggesting you’d like her smaller will not leave her mind ever.

By: The Most Interesting Man in the World

The Most Interesting Man in the World — Fri, 21 May 2010 05:23:24 +0000

This entire discussion is ridiculous.

Here ARE the cold, hard facts:

(1) Most women are, at the very least, desirable when they get married;

(2) After marriage, women decide that they do not have to work anymore to look good for anyone else (including their husbands), and don’t think twice about buying that Ben & Jerry’s fudge ripple fro-yo. They’ll justify it by claiming it’s frozen yogurt, even though there’s 8 grams of fat per serving.

(3) Heaven help you if they have kids. Because then you can never comment on their body without being a bastard — even if they neglect to lose the 15 – 80 pounds of flab that they needlessly tacked on during pregnancy by constantly eating, say, fatty crap instead of healthy, hearty food – even when you’re eating healthy.

(4) Then, you get trapped. Married, possibly a kid, six to ten years down the line. Your wife weighs 185 pounds, and complains that you don’t love her for who she is, even though you’ve kept in shape while she’s ballooned out of control and blamed it on everyone but herself. Meanwhile, good luck “rising to the challenge” when you can’t even tell which way is up on your wife.

(5) Finally, you divorce her. Get weekend visitation rights. Marry a hot younger woman. Now that you’re smarter, you get a prenup that includes, among other things, a weight clause. If she gets above x pounds, you can divorce and she gets nothing. She’ll never go above x pounds.

IT IS SIMPLY SHOCKING HOW COMMON THE ABOVE STORY IS.

WOMEN — STOP BITCHING, START TAKING CARE OF YOURSELVES TO KEEP YOURSELF HAPPY AND YOUR MAN HAPPY, AND NEVER, EVER, EVER GO ABOVE A SIZE SIX. TRUST ME.

WOMEN — IF YOU DISAGREE WITH ME, YOU ARE KIDDING YOURSELVES.

By: Shannon

Shannon — Sat, 03 Apr 2010 03:30:16 +0000

“People like you” is always an indication that intelligent discussion is not bound to follow. I don’t even think you read what I initially wrote Five-0.

By: Five-0

Five-0 — Fri, 02 Apr 2010 17:07:41 +0000

shannon..its amazing how people like you can blame everything else for their problems, instead of themselves. each individual is in control of their own actions. If a person either man or woman really wants to do something then they will. You dont need a set of circumstances to take place or have others motivate you. this just goes to say volumes about a grown up who needs someone to hold their hand everywhere they go. These are just excuses. If a person does not lose weight, it is their own concious descision, but letting your mate know the extra pounds bothers you in a polite way, is the best thing you can do. Its time every individual take responsibility for their actions and stop blameing people or circumstanse for why they cannot acheive whatever the goal is. Eat right, exercise and start caring about yourself…cause no one can do it for you…NO ONE!!

By: Shannon

Shannon — Wed, 10 Mar 2010 22:13:38 +0000

Correction Tommy, you mean out of your perception of reality and your particular wife who is obese might not care (if your perception is the truth of her reality) but that doesn’t speak for all fat women. What I said is the truth. If you are with a man that pushes your right buttons, it sets off something in you that changes your body chemistry. If you are with an ignorant and boring man (you know, the kind who stereotypes all women in one lump category) then it changes your body chemistry in a negative way. Living with that kind of person (man or woman) long enough is draining and that takes a toll.

By: tommy

tommy — Wed, 24 Feb 2010 16:31:20 +0000

shannon. You are so out of reality. Fat women do not care. Their is nothing a man can do or say that will influence an obese wife to loose weight or even try. The society we live in thinks obesity is the norm and should be just overlooked. I’m married to a woman who is obese and she’s the norm.

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By: Shannon

Shannon — Sun, 25 May 2008 03:01:06 +0000

My advice to men that want their women to drop some pounds…be a better lover and fun to be around in general. Make your woman want to feel sexy and energetic. Surprise her. Stress makes the weight harder to come off. And it’s boring to be around a guy that doesn’t inspire that passion and zest for life in you. Women in that scenario usually go two directions, either have an affair with someone that does push the buttons, or they get depressed and inertia sets in.
Have sex a lot, burn calories, go out and do fun things, walks, hikes, plan Saturday trips to go do something active each week and little walks at night. Start lifting weights together. Don’t make it just about how you want her to drop some pounds, but that you want an active healthier lifestyle together. And when you go walking together? Don’t walk 10 feet ahead of her so that she’s frustrated. Hold her hand, be loving and frisky. Have FUN. If she was thinner when you met and she poofed up, I think you have a hand in it. Either by not saying anything, not doing anything or just not inspiring a different direction in life for her.
When my husband starts ballooning up, I say something about it. I don’t make him feel bad, but I’m honest. I know how unhappy he gets when he’s got a big belly and fatter. So sure, it might sting a little when I say honey you are getting big again but he appreciates it in the long run. And I tell him to let me know when he notices me ballooning up too so that I can do something about it before it gets too out of control.

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Sat, 26 Jan 2008 03:10:00 +0000

I have looked and looked for advice on this topic and there is obviously none. I married my wife who was a size 10. Shortly after marriage a size twelve. Five years later the first child and a size 16. We have been married 28 years and I have wished many times that she would take the initiative to lose a few pounds. She had gallbladder problems two years ago and lost weight ( down to size 14 ) until surgery. She even was excited about the new look, then within a year after surgery she had put on the weight again. It seems like all my friends wives have taken steps to lose. Sex is great, but the desire is not always there. It’s like – can’t she see it? There are so many options out there today. Why won’t she try them? I wish I knew how to love here into motivation.

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Wed, 23 Jan 2008 15:26:00 +0000

I tried a few things myself to get my wife to loose some weight. Just so you know, the direct approach really did NOT work for me. I think what has sort of worked is we both got a membership to the gym(she says she is going to go but only makes it maybe once or twice a month). I have worked out probably 4 or 5 times a week and got on a semi-strict diet for the last 6 months. If I say anything to my wife about having the membership or loosing weight, she won’t work out and pig out for the next month(to get back at me). If I don’t say anything and I am diligent at working out and dieting(I am not overweight) she might start some fad diet but it doesn’t last very long. This is ridiculous, she is overweight by 40 pounds or so and keeps her old clothes that she believes she will fit in again one day(which would be nice). The worst part is when she complains about being overweight, if I give her the obvious solution(eat better, work out, she goes nuts and doesn’t work out for another month). Her drivers license even says she is 50 pounds less than what she actually weighs(she doesn’t want to admit she is fat). Every time I see her scoop in another spoon full of ice cream I shudder. If any of you get any good ideas, post them up here because I got nothing.