Comments on: He Said She Said: Who is Responsible for Finding a Babysitter?

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Fri, 16 May 2008 17:29:12 +0000

[...] in tow?) He’s a steady worker, and takes me on dates (too bad I didn’t get points for always being the one to find the babysitter). He did lose a few points for deferring to his mother too much; he’s not really a [...]

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Thu, 13 Dec 2007 23:33:00 +0000

I vote for the wife. Her way seems to be more fair and even. The Donkey could find some teenage boys to babysit and then when it is his turn he can call them.

By: The Donkey

The Donkey — Thu, 13 Dec 2007 05:31:00 +0000

Her claim is that I just make plans without considering a babysitter. Guess what, she does the same thing. Plus, she has on many occasions asked me to find a babysitter during the day.

By: wifelikeme

wifelikeme — Wed, 12 Dec 2007 17:09:00 +0000

"Neither of us should assume that we can go somewhere without checking with the other person to see if they are able to be at home with the kids that night. If we have a conflict, we should share the responsibility to find the babysitter. "

This would be less of an issue in your house if the Donkey was more respectful of the Wife's time and responsibilities. Assuming that she has nothing better to do is disrespectful!

I do agree that it makes more sense overall for the wife to be calling teenage girls, UNLESS the girls are regular babysitters who's families know the Donkey. Cuz when he calls they're just going to roll their eyes and hand her the phone anyway. (or the girl is going to say, don't pick up! Its that nutjob with the blog again!)

CALLING should be the wife's duty (whenever possible), but the SCHEDULING and PLANNING should be a joint effort.

By: maxeverything

maxeverything — Wed, 12 Dec 2007 16:51:00 +0000

I believe that responsibilities should always be shared between the husband and wife, but I’m not opposed to making some sort of an agreement in which my wife would do the searching I did some other undesirable, but necessary, task.

By: Deborah, Site Administrator

Deborah, Site Administrator — Wed, 12 Dec 2007 16:25:00 +0000

I own an online nanny recruiting site and even after almost 10 years in the business, it still surprises me how many men are in charge of the nanny search. I know when I was married with little ones, I was always in charge of the sitter search. This was for two reasons, my ex would never have done it and I wanted to be the one to choose who was taking care of the kids.

By: Nicole

Nicole — Wed, 12 Dec 2007 11:04:00 +0000

I always find it interesting these polls never have the donkey doing all this or that choice. It’s always the wife doing it all or compromise solution. No wonder she gets a bit upset if that’s the mentality in the household.

By: celine

celine — Wed, 12 Dec 2007 06:55:00 +0000

as I enjoy having control over most things in the house…this is not a chore, but a pleasure because it means I get time alone with my husband. i will gladly call. (i am the one who speaks turkish here so it wouldn’t make sense to have pete call and bumble in english and at home usually my sisters get the job, so that would be weird having my husband call my sisters)

By: Nancy Sabina

Nancy Sabina — Wed, 12 Dec 2007 00:12:00 +0000

I think the consesus is that everybody hates calling the babysitter. So suck it up, men, and help out a little. And while we’re on the subject, I seriously resent any father who refers to taking care of his own children as “babysitting”.

By: Margaret AKA Mom, AKA Grandma

Margaret AKA Mom, AKA Grandma — Wed, 12 Dec 2007 00:08:00 +0000

John Stockton’s comment appeared 3 times, does that mean his vote got counted thrice as well? Close as it is I think “she said” will win this one also. Let’s hear it for the ladies!!!!