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I don’t care if my wife tells me that I can/can’t have a mustache as long as I can point out whiskers she needs to remove

By Doc on Dec 27, 2007

If he wants to be kissed, she has all the control.

By Brittany on Dec 27, 2007

She should have a significant say. Maybe not the final call, but close. Veto rights perhaps? She’s the one who will be kissing him, snuggling with him, going out with him, looking at him, and being seen with him.

By SM on Dec 27, 2007

This should be a joint decision, just like haircuts. I would like my wife to consult with me before she gets her hair dyed and my wife wouldn’t like me to shave my head without first speaking to her. I think the owner of the hair makes the ultimate decision

By LiteMike on Dec 27, 2007

I am of the opinion that he can do whatever he wants with his facial hair. However – if he wants me to be close to him at all…then I get to decide.
And since I happen to know that he DOES want me close to him, I have all the control.

By Nancy Sabina on Dec 27, 2007

My wife?? None at all. She doesn’t ask me how to do her hair, I don’t ask her about mine. Besides, I know too many guys whose wives say they should have a little mustache. Not because it looks good, but because it looks bad and keeps other women away.

By Ghoti on Dec 27, 2007

I agree with sm. Some say, and perhaps veto power over something awful. She IS the one kissing him, looking at him, and being seen with him!

By Emily (Laundry and Lullabies) on Dec 27, 2007

Only if I get a say on her facial hair decisions. Wax, tweeze, or bleach? Let’s see what hubby has to say about that.

By Karlmalone on Dec 27, 2007

she can tell me her preference for my hair, but it is her responsibility to shave it, trim it, etc. we’ll see how long that lasts. i know what you ladies are thinking- “well how about if you want our legs shaved you do it no problemo”

By phillyz on Dec 27, 2007

imgo guys with facial hair are SO ugly. and old looking. sorry but NEVER. a guy with facial hair is a total turn off.

mustache
beard
goatee

i dont care its just nasty. and it makes them lazy and FOOD gets trapped in it. hello – NO.

By Anonymous on Dec 27, 2007

i can’t believe that people care enough about this to have a say one way or the other. who cares? he doesn’t care what i do with my hair and i don’t care what he does with his.

By cworth on Dec 27, 2007

Does a husband get to control his wife’s weight or make-up choice? Why does she get control over his facial hair?

By Lord Baldemort on Dec 27, 2007

Not a fan of facial hair (and fortunately neither is hubby) so this hasn’t been an issue for us. But… it got me thinking- when I decided to cut off all my waist length hair and have an above the shoulder super short cut he didn’t argue, just expressed that he really wished I wouldn’t and that he liked my long hair. So, I think it would be difficult to tell him that he can or can’t have facial hair. I asked his opinion and he said that a woman’s opinion should definitely be taken into consideration, after all, she’s the one who has to look at it.

By Carolyn on Dec 27, 2007

I think that the husband can do whatever he wants as well, as long as he doesn’t get upset if he doesn’t get any lovin’ for awhile.

By Aunt Boo on Dec 28, 2007

A wife has very powerful say in this matter, and it can be non-verbal. When my husband skips four or five days of shaving, he just doesn’t get kissed as much! Seriously, though, people should be sensitive to one anothers’ preferences.

By Sarah Marie on Dec 28, 2007

I didn’t start dating my hubby until after he grew his beard – he looks so much better with it! He could shave it if he wanted too – but he knows that I stongly prefer he doesn’t. Just like he strongly prefers that I don’t cut my hair short.

By Jane on Dec 28, 2007

I’m surprised to see so many comments about with-holding lovin from a guy with facial hair. I can’t wait to get married and tell my wife she will receive no love from me until she alters her apperance. If she even thinks about gaining or losing weight I will tell her because I have to be the one to look at her she deserves no affection until she meets the physical standards that I set for her.

By Lord Baldemort on Dec 28, 2007

First of all, I like a mustache ride as much as the next gal, but seriously, who wants to kiss a guy with a molestache, let alone be seen with him?

Second, a man with facial hair has something to hide. I’m not going to be the one to deal with his baggage. Make him stay clean-shaven and keep his skeletons in the closet.

By *Bibliophile on Dec 28, 2007

Let’s put it this way– if hubby wants some action, his face better not have stubble.

By Karen on Dec 30, 2007

Wow, I can’t believe this is such a huge issue with some people!

I love my husband. He could dye his hair blue or shave it all off, and I wouldn’t stop loving him. I wouldn’t like it, but I wouldn’t let it stop me from kissing him! I married him, not his hair.

I’m certainly allowed to have an opinion about his hair, just as he is about mine. We are free to tell each other what we like, and what we don’t like, but at the end of the day it’s his hair (or my hair).

By Caitlin @ Clutter Cubed on Dec 30, 2007

1 – Someone gave me this idea before I got married and so I told my husband it was a pretty good plan. If my husband doesn’t shave his face, I don’t shave my legs. It gets the point across…I mean, I don’t care if he doesn’t shave if I don’t have to… Although really, the lack of leg shaving bothers me more before it gets to my husband
2 – I agree that I want my husband to love me the way I am and I want to love my husband the way he is. That being said, I like to look attractive for my husband, so if he says that he likes my hair a certain way, I tend to do it that way because I know he likes it (not because he forces me to or tells me I am ugly if I don’t.)

By Anonymous on Dec 30, 2007

If my husband had facial hair I didn’t like, I’d just let my own bodily hair grow and see what he thought of that.

Overall, it should be a joint decision, like both partner’s haircuts etc.

By Anonymous on Dec 31, 2007

A wife needs to have everything to do with the decision. I resented having to relent to her wish — no, it was a command — that I shave my full beard. “You look like a derelict,” she said while refusing to kiss me until the beard was off.

So husbands with wives of my persuasion — shave it off.

in todays world of work, hair is out, clean is in. If you’re bearded and into a job search, shave for interviews. Grow it back after your hired — providing your wife won’t object.

By Ransom Place on Dec 31, 2007

What an interesting topic. You all are obviously not from Montana(no surprise there, since there are only 900k of us.) But facial hair is quite common here. I usually grow a full beard in the winter and have a goatee sort of arrangement in the summer. I keep my beard trimmed. I don’t like it when it starts to get woolly. Though in the winter, the thicker it gets the warmer my face is.

I also hate shaving. No matter what shaving cream or razor I try, it is very uncomfortable. I bleed. I get ingrown hairs. Electric razors dry out the skin on my face and abrade it, like using a floor buffer on my face.

I guess if you women want to kiss us guys you have to choose between sandpaper and fuzz. My woman likes my beard; she prefers it to my scratchy face.

I went to Chicago last Christmas and I was struck by how few men had any hair on their face. I must have looked out of place to them. I was also struck by how many people wore black (on black).

I’ve wondered sometimes what life would be like, living in a city. How would I do, socially speaking. I guess I’d have to shave or be treated like a street person.

The comments some women here have made about not shaving if their hubby didn’t shave. Go ahead, I don’t care. I realize I am in the huge minority on this, but I don’t care if a woman shaves or not. I see them just the same, one way or the other. I guess it’s because i went to Europe when I was 18 and saw a lot of natural women there, and also my early college days were during the era of ‘granolas’. Eco hippys, I guess we would call em now. God made us with hair, Who are we to go changing the plan?

I also agree with Baldemort, above.

I also would like to hear about how men feel about their women shaving…you know…down below. I definitely don’t like that. I don’t want to be with a woman who resembles a little girl. I want a full grown woman. Always thought that habit/style was really strange.

By techwiz on Jan 1, 2008

Nah! Hairy women turn me off. Why? Because I was brougt up amongst women who shaved their leg and armpits.

I like the idea of how a beard keeps you warm during the winter. That was my experience, too. Some women find men’s facial hair sexy.

In business, as I said before, hair is out. Bald is in. Beards, on men in business, give others the impression that Harry is trying to come across as a profesor.

When I was in the Army, Capt. Tamaraz was ordered by the Commanding General at Fort Dix to shave his handlebar mustache (which was waxed at both ends). The Captain’s boss stuck up for him. “Why that mustache is part of this offilcer’s personality. He can’t shave that.”

When facial hair is part of your personality, you have no choice but to keep it — no matter what your wife thinks.

By Ransom Place on Jan 6, 2008

Your story about Capt. Tamaraz is pretty good.

My chin is white, so if I don’t keep it trimmed very short, I come across as Col. Sanders!

By techwiz on Jan 7, 2008

Yes, I do! I shave daily and wear a moustache, just as my wife desires. For her part, she has grown her hair, and has kept it below her waist for the past six years. It would be a super dooper downer for me to have her choose short hair now. She is 53, and I think that married people should support the other’s desires if feasible. LGH

By Anonymous on Feb 5, 2008