Comments on: Of Course! I Should Have Known The Whole Time

By: Shelley

Shelley — Thu, 08 Nov 2007 03:32:00 +0000

Makes total sense to me too. A guy wouldn’t think that him wanting to eat an entirely different way for a whole month would involve a whole lot of research, planning, shopping, recipe-reading, and cooking? Was he going to do all that himself?

By: April J.

April J. — Wed, 07 Nov 2007 21:58:00 +0000

the e-mail makes perfect sense to me. You should be lucky she took the time to express how she was feeling, it’s hard to express yourself with words sometimes so writing an e-mail was a good idea.

By: celine

celine — Wed, 07 Nov 2007 19:09:00 +0000

don’t upend our world without letting us plan it out first…this is a planner versus nonplanner issue (similar to money saver versus money spender).

this has nothing to do with husband/wife…maybe it just so happens that wives plan and think of their spouses on a daily basis whilst men think of themselves on a daily basis (not saying that men never think of their wives, but I think they don’t think about caring for them daily – it is a more long term thinking — at least for my husband).

i always make totaly sense and my husband should always know what i am thinking — without a transcribed email.

By: phillyz

phillyz — Wed, 07 Nov 2007 04:19:00 +0000

i must say that may be the first time i have read an email that is likely the exact way it would have been orally expressed. let’s face it we can’t be expected to know what is going on

By: Nancy Sabina

Nancy Sabina — Tue, 06 Nov 2007 13:48:00 +0000

I totally see Nancy’s side of this. But at the same time – I am concerned about one particular line in her note, “having people for dinner…” I think perhaps the problem is that she doesn’t understand veganism if she thinks canabalism is a part of it.

By: Karlmalone

Karlmalone — Tue, 06 Nov 2007 08:11:00 +0000

What seem fairly typical is that wives can hear something from their husbands and in a matter of seconds MENTALLY debate it with you, get upset about it, argue it some more with you, go through a wide emotional gamut, and come to a resolution as though you were an equal partner in the entire mental exercise.

This whole event is internal to her and you are still just standing there wondering what was wrong with what you said in the first place.

What is more *amazing* in this case is that she was actually able to transcribe this entire mental episode into a readable email.

There is no way you could have known what was wrong at the time, your mind just isn't wired the same way. My advice is that next time this happens, just walk away and review the transcript later.