With my wife’s birthday and the holidays quickly approaching, I am faced with the opportunity for botched present purchases. Each year my wife refuses to tell me what types of gifts she wants because she says it won’t be a surprise if she tells me. So I am left to my own devices to think of gift ideas.
Lesson 13: If you want your wife to appreciate your thoughtful, homemade gift, don’t have your mom design and make it for you.
I wanted to do something special for our first anniversary. We were students and didn’t have a lot of money, so I thought I would be creative. I went online and did a search for anniversary gift ideas and found a few interesting ideas. One lady described a love box she created so she and her husband could leave secret notes for each other. This woman created a very ornate wooden box that had a little opening at the top to slip notes in. She explained that she would leave a note in the box that would say something like, “Can’t wait until we see each other when we get home.” Her husband would then retrieve the note and leave another one that would say, “I’ll be waiting.” This seemed like the most unmanly thing I had ever heard of, so I thought my wife would like it.
I didn’t have any materials for a wooden box, so I had to think of another idea. I called my mom and she suggested that I use a shoe box and use wrapping paper to spice it up. I liked the idea and asked her when she could work on it. She laughed and said she would not do it for me because my wife would not appreciate that. I told her that I couldn’t wrap presents and that she had to help me. My mom finally agreed to make the gift as long as I got her the materials. I found a shoe box and whatever wrapping paper was available in the closet and brought it to my mom. She made the love box, but was concerned about the wrapping paper. As you can see, my choice in wrapping paper wasn’t the best, but I didn’t think it mattered much.
I presented the love box to my wife on our anniversary. She was quite surprised that I tried to be creative, but she was shocked by the wrapping paper. She was even more shocked when she found out that my mom was the one who made the box. To top it all off, she found my note inside, which read:
“Thanks for marrying me. Here’s a box to keep notes in. ”
Her response was simply, “Wow. How romantic. Your mom made me a love box out of the baby wrapping paper that I bought last week.”
My suggestion: Maybe husbands should stick with something on the safer side–like a bottle of perfume. You run the risk of not knowing the right scent, but at least it won’t reek of your mom.