Dominatrix in the Domicile
Don’t get too excited by the title. I’m just referring to the secondary definition of dominatrix–a woman who dominates.
I came across a journal article about the differences between males and females, written by Dr. Richard Driscoll–author of The Stronger Sex. The conclusions of his studies were interesting, and potentially controversial.Here are a few of the highlights:
- Men are more dominant in business and politics, while women tend to dominate in personal arguments. (Could this explain why I have lost the last few He Said She Said debates?)
- Men and women prefer working for men and find conflict with women more stressful than conflict with men. And–you guessed it–the author indicates that this is partly due to the fact that women hold grudges and are quicker to anger.
- Husbands and wives are most satisfied when the power in their marriage is balanced; however, both husbands and wives are more dissatisfied when the wife is the dominant power in the home.
I have to wonder whether my wife is truly less satisfied when she is in charge.
What do you think of these findings?
6 Responses to “Dominatrix in the Domicile”
rubbish
By celine on Nov 29, 2007
Women want all of the say and none of the responsibility
By P on Nov 29, 2007
balogne balls
By phillyz on Nov 29, 2007
I agree with that, it frustrates me when Jack lets me have all the say. It’s nice tohave some input once in awhile
By <3 April J. on Nov 29, 2007
I also agree, my mother is a real dominatrix in her household, both in money/home cares and the final say. It has really affected her satisfaction in her relationship lately as well.
By Nicole on Dec 2, 2007
I think my wife is frustrated when I tell her “whatever you want” to a question obviously designed to give me the choice. But in all fairness, I really don’t care… and she’ll usually overturn my choice if it is not the one she wanted in the first place… by skillfully laying out facts that only show her choice as the right one. But that’s beside the point.
I’ll vouch for the “women hold grudges” statement. But that’s just from my personal experience, I would assume that not all women hold grudges. All I know is that if 15 minuets has past, I’ve usually cooled off and not angry anymore. In fact, I’ll often completely forget about it. However, my wife can stay angry for hours, days, weeks, months, and probably years if I didn’t do something about it. She doesn’t forget a single thing I do… almost like she’s keeping a score card. I, however, forget things as soon as I see something shiny!
Women are more social than men. Their brains are wired differently. Men will never understand women, but they understand us just fine. I would imagine that arguments with women would be more stressful… because arguments with men are at least fair for other men… and the women that argue with men tend to win. I guess it’s just a fact of life. Women are better at winning arguments, no contest.
By Nathaniel on Dec 2, 2007