Comments on: Marriage Advice: Husband and wife only see each other late at night

By: John

John — Sun, 25 May 2008 11:18:53 +0000

I should also add to Celine’s comment, that it takes about 7 to 9 cups of coffee a day to keep that pace. I can drink an strong cup of coffee at 8:00pm and be out cold at 9:00pm. If my wife has something to say or vice versa we talk in the living room, on the couch, the bedroom is for rest and “romance” not talking about bills, vacation plans, what’s stressing you or him out.

By: John

John — Sun, 25 May 2008 11:13:01 +0000

Speaking as a man who wakes up at 4:30am to drive 1.5 hrs to work a 10hr day and then drive home at 5:00 to arrive home at 6:45pm, to provide financially for his family. Who then has 1.5 to 2 hrs to eat dinner, be a good husband and involved father of two firecracker boys. If I’m in bed and we’re awake, it’s not talking that’s going to keep me awake.

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Sun, 04 Nov 2007 14:59:00 +0000

Men could keep an alert state if they were speaking to other men because the conversation gets to the point. Talking at night isn’t the problem, it’s talking in bed.

By: phillyz

phillyz — Fri, 02 Nov 2007 21:03:00 +0000

perhaps we men fall asleep during a lengthy conversation, but i seem to recall countless times our female counterparts have fallen asleep 5 minutes into a movie night with us– that’s our way of communicating sitting in the same room watching a movie together, and you just fall asleep.

By: celine

celine — Fri, 02 Nov 2007 18:37:00 +0000

I have trouble understanding the tiredness since I don’t seem to get as tired…my thought is, why should I plan around my husband’s sleepiness? Can’t he just maintain an alert state like I do? Has his day really been that much more exhausting? It doesn’t make any sense. I would listen to him late at night if he had something to say (which, sometimes he does and sometimes I do). Maybe a stash of Coke and chocolate bars will keep the conversation rolling. He does enjoy chocolate and I do enjoy talking.

By: phillyz

phillyz — Thu, 01 Nov 2007 19:38:00 +0000

I don’t see the problem, this could be a perfect opportunity to say whatever you want to him and assume whatever you want from him. For examle, while he is dozing ask him if he minds if you use the $25 gift card for yourself and assume yes by his silence- this works for anything. pretty soon he’ll realize he better stay awake or he might be agreeing to something he regrets