http://www.wifeadvice.com/2007/08/wife-advice-sorry-for-being-sorry/ Funny marriage stories from a clueless husband and his patient wife Tue, 07 Sep 2010 13:09:00 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 http://www.wifeadvice.com/2007/08/wife-advice-sorry-for-being-sorry/comment-page-1/#comment-1401 Vatermann Mon, 08 Oct 2007 23:03:07 +0000 http://images.wifeadvice.com/blog/?p=29#comment-1401 Generally, I think the Donkey's advice of offering only sincere apologies is good. This all depends on the family situation you grew up in, however. My wife's family growing up almost never said sorry. After a conflict, they wouldn't talk to each other for a while, and then do something nice to make up. In my family, we are very verbal and say sorry a lot for the many insensitive things that come spewing out of our entirely too large mouths. Given my upbringing and my polished and practiced expert ability to apologize, after getting married, I was baffled to find that apologizing after a fight often made things worse. I later discoverd that my apology just reminded the wife about what she was mad about before, causing another fierce burst of anger. I have learned to just let it blow over and then do something nice for her to make up. Go figure. Generally, I think the Donkey’s advice of offering only sincere apologies is good. This all depends on the family situation you grew up in, however. My wife’s family growing up almost never said sorry. After a conflict, they wouldn’t talk to each other for a while, and then do something nice to make up. In my family, we are very verbal and say sorry a lot for the many insensitive things that come spewing out of our entirely too large mouths. Given my upbringing and my polished and practiced expert ability to apologize, after getting married, I was baffled to find that apologizing after a fight often made things worse. I later discoverd that my apology just reminded the wife about what she was mad about before, causing another fierce burst of anger. I have learned to just let it blow over and then do something nice for her to make up. Go figure.

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